I posted a little snippet about Assertiveness a couple of days ago, but here is more elaboration on the topic.
According to the American Psychological Association dictionary, “assertiveness is described as an adaptive style of communication in individuals expressing their feelings and needs directly while maintaining respect for others.”
From my experience, assertiveness is sometimes confused with aggression, but it is the opposite. The act of being aggressive can come from anger while assertiveness comes from inner strength.
A person will need assertiveness in all aspects of life, especially concerning people who lack boundaries.
To stop those who feel that their boundaries are not respected must learn assertiveness.
Now we are not victim-blaming: those over the age of childhood/adolescence as adults need to take full responsibility for their livelihood.
How can one learn to be assertive?
A few tips are:
Learning how to say “No”, learning Self-Defense and learning how to set boundaries.
When someone continues to cross your boundaries in a way that can physically and mentally harm it shows their lack of care.
Learning how to be assertive can establish self-worth and care for oneself!
Like anything, it will take practice, but you can do it.
APA Dictionary of Psychology (Internet). American Psychological Association. American Psychological Association; 2020 (cited 2021Oct18). Available from: https://dictionary.apa.org/assertiveness